This is brought about by my own personal experience. I have had some trouble convincing my spouse to become as prepared as I would like. Not that she does not want to be prepared, but to what extent. I am on a path which is different from hers. I wanted to go over some things which have helped me get her on board.
- Focus on debt elimination. Debt is a burden in all families. I am sure your spouse knows of the crushing feeling of having debt. By eliminating this your financial and emotional well-being will be better. Even if this is the only thing you do for your first year, do it. Knowing debt is cancer will improve your ability to acquire the preparedness stuff later.
- Never demand to do it your way. I have done much research and on most things know which way to go. The best way to show someone how to do something is to do it. We pull people into doing things, we never push. You want to lead them into the correct idea. The best thing you can do is show your spouse how happy you are when the family is prepared.
- Always work as a team. Try to get things done as a unit. This in not to say you may have to do some things on your own. But try to arrive at a decision together.
- Have your partner do your weaker items. There are things you can not do or do very well. Have your spouse or children do them. This will get them involved and have some stake in the outcome. Showing them you can not do everything says you are willing to involve everyone to get the job done. This will show you care about those around you.
- Never put what you “want to do” over what needs to be done. A sure fire way to get them to put the brakes on a project is to show preference for your own things. You may think you need a gun, but you don’t have a black out kit. Remember you are a team. Make a list of all the things you need and prioritize them. Go down the list in order. Every so often you will have to rearrange. This way you will both be in sync on the next project you have to accomplish.
- Live the way you want them to live. Show them how happy you are in your preparedness lifestyle. Let them see you in action. If you become happier and a more supportive spouse, they will be open to your actions. I know since I started living a more prepared lifestyle, I have seen the changes in my wife. She now thinks about gardening (she is reading Square Foot Gardening by Mel Bartholomew). She has her own bed and is interested in planting for herself.
- Ask “what if questions.” Ask what if the lights went out for 24 hours? What if we had a boil water advisory? What if I lost my job? Then listen to the answers. Do not talk. Do not offer suggestions. LISTEN. You will learn more about your spouse than your ever thought you knew. Discuss with them the answers they gave you. Maybe you are both on the same page but your spouse is just not quite sure where to start.
- Explain to them how having food and savings is a great investment. Food goes up in price, by buying now instead of later you are saving money. Having extra food saves you time since you do not have to go to the store as frequently. Having money in the bank allows you to make smarter purchases.
Part 2 is for next time. One of the greatest blessing in life is to have a cohesive team planning for the future. Nothing makes me happier than when WE are on the same page and moving forward to a common goal.
Making Life’s Road a Little Smoother